7 Feminist Alternatives to Outdated (and Patriarchal) Wedding Traditions

Jessica Castro Weddings

By Janey Tracey, Brides

[post_ads]Marriage in America has come a long way in recent decades, and yet the wedding ceremony itself is, more often than not, rigidly traditional, especially when it comes to stereotypical gender roles. So how's a feminist bride-to-be to cope with some of these old-fashioned norms? Well, the good news is, none of these practices are necessary for a beautiful wedding day or a happy union. Here, seven conservative wedding traditions that should go the way of the dodo—and a few feminist, forward-thinking alternatives:

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Wearing a white dress
White wedding dresses may be the standard now, but that wasn't always the case. They didn't become popular in Western cultures until the mid 19th century, thanks to Queen Victoria. From that point, wearing a white dress down the aisle became a symbol of the bride's purity. While some feminists argue that the white dress no longer symbolizes virginity, the color white is still very much used as a symbol for sweetness and innocence in our modern culture

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[post_ads]Alternative? Wear a dress that expresses who you are. Your wedding day is all about you (and your partner), so why not wear a dress that reflects your unique personality? If you want to be a little different but still want your dress to look like a "wedding dress," then blush, silver, or light blue will work. That being said, a wedding dress can be whatever you want; you're the bride, after all! It can be bright red (as is customary in many Eastern cultures), it can be black, it can be tie-dyed. It doesn't even have to be a dress; you can wear a crop top and a maxiskirt, a fancy romper, or a T-shirt and jeans. If ever there was a day when the world should be your oyster, it's your wedding day

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Asking the father's permission
This antiquated tradition harks back to the time when young girls were considered the property and financial burden of their fathers and were handed off as such to their husbands. But even without those connotations, asking the dad's permission feels weird and dated. If a woman is old enough to get married, she's old enough to make her own decisions. Before you check whether her father is okay with her getting married, you should probably make sure she actually wants to marry you.

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Alternative? Get the blessing of both sets of parents. Men may argue that they want to get the blessing of the bride's parents (or parental figures) out of respect, but that makes sense only if they ask their own parents as well. Otherwise, the implication is still that they're making sure the bride's parents approve of their ability to support a wife, when women can support themselves just fine on their own.

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Lifestyle Magazine: 7 Feminist Alternatives to Outdated (and Patriarchal) Wedding Traditions
7 Feminist Alternatives to Outdated (and Patriarchal) Wedding Traditions
Here are seven conservative wedding traditions that should go the way of the dodo—and a few feminist, forward-thinking alternatives...
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